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What does it take to have a strong, happy relationship that lasts decades? The researchers at Rodale publishing surveyed one thousand couples who had been together at least 10 years to find out. Here are their findings: 

1.  Cuddle Time.  Remember when you were first dating?  You could hold each other forever!  Research shows that by the 10 year mark, only a third of couples still have cuddle talking sessions.  Dr. Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets Of Happily Married Women, says couples need to keep cuddling. Holding each other produces the bonding hormone, oxytocin, which reduces stress. However, after 10 years, Haltzman says couples are more involved with the world around them than they are with each other. People change – and so does their thinking. So get to know each other again. Try cuddling and asking each other questions before drifting off at night – like “If we won the lottery tomorrow – what’s the one splurge you’d like to make?”

2.  Separate bank accounts. By the 10th year of marriage, 64% of couples only have one joint account. According to the Motley Fool’s Guide to Couples & Cash, even if your relationship is strong, everyone should have an account of their own. Yes, you need to have a joint account for family finances (i.e. bills), but you should also have your own accounts to maintain your separate credit histories and personal purchases.

3.  Alone time. During the first year of a relationship – only 10% of couples say alone time is very important. By year 10, most couples insist on it and that is a good thing. Spending time doing things individually isn’t a sign that you’re growing apart. According to psychology professor Laurie Mintz, it’s about reconnecting with your passions – the things that make you an interesting and complete individual.

(Source:  www.tesh.com)

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